Recently, a published letter in my local newspaper stated that our
understanding about marriage was based on nothing more than the idea of a
woman being the property of a man! Hardly an inspiring thought!
Marriage continues to be attacked from a number of quarters as outdated and is
constantly under pressure “to move with the times”, so this issue
I think it would be good to consider the following under-stated yet enormous
benefits that come from the marriage relationship.
Living together is not the same as being married
One study revealed that people who live together are more like single people
than married when it came to issues such as physical and mental health,
emotional health and what they earn. It also found that people who live
together are more prone to violence and are less happy than married couples.
Overall, the article I read stated that people who live together “are
less committed to a lifelong relationship.”
Children of divorced parents are more likely to divorce in later life
In fact, the statistics say that the likelihood of children of divorced
parents becoming divorced themselves in later life actually double and the
chances of them becoming unmarried parents or being in an unhappy relationship
also significantly increase.
Married men earn more than single men!
This may surprise many of you but studies have shown that “married men
earn between 10 and 40 percent more than do single men with similar education
and job histories”. Staggering! Some of the causes suggested are that
married men have healthier lifestyles and gain an enormous amount from the
support offered to them by their wives.
Children of traditional married couples do better at school
A survey of Aussie primary school children from a variety of different types
of couples/partners showed that children from the traditional, married Mum and
Dad relationship did better than others in every area of their education! The
report stated, “Married couples seem to offer the best environment for a
child’s social and educational development.”
Divorce negatively impacts a child’s health
In one study, conducted over a 70 year period, the life expectancy of a child
from a divorced family, decreased by four years. In another study, 40 year old
men whose parents had divorced were three times more likely to die than 40
year old men whose parents had stayed married. The writers of the report went
on to say that “parental divorce sets off a negative chain of
events” for children from divorced homes.
Divorced people are more likely to commit suicide than married people
A variety of studies and statistics show that suicide rates among divorced
people are three times higher than those of married people and that they were
“more than twice as likely” to attempt suicide than married
people. Separated men are particularly at risk as they are “six times
more likely to commit suicide than married men”. Divorced men between
the ages of 35 — 44 are the most likely group of people in Australia to
The National Marriage Coalition has produced an excellent resource called
“Why Marriage Matters” and it can be downloaded from their website
at www.marriage.org.au. This paper makes a compelling case
for the traditional understanding of marriage as being one man committed to
one woman for life. And this is the order that God established for marriage in
Genesis where we are told that “a man shall leave his mother and father,
and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”
The authors of “Why Marriage Matters” state:
“Here is our fundamental conclusion: Marriage is an
important social good, associated with an impressively broad array of positive
outcomes for children and adults alike.”
Why does our society so stubbornly persist in seeking to undermine and destroy
an institution that brings so much benefit to it? It truly does defy all
logic! The ancient playwright, Euripides, coined the phrase “whom the
gods would destroy, they first make mad.” He was describing his
character, Medea, who murdered her own children to exact revenge upon her
ex-lover. When sound thinking and logic are abandoned, we descend into madness
and we ultimately destroy ourselves. As a society, we stand on the brink of a
precipice and if we are not careful we will fall to our destruction.
Our community benefits as a whole from married Mums and Dads who are committed
in love to each other, their children and to God — lets do all we can to
get this positive message out into the mainstream in the coming year!